Russia: Making Progress, Thanks to You

12 12 2011

In 2010, you sprang into action when Joint Council asked you to show your support of Russian adoptions through our We Are The Truth campaign. Thank you for your support!

What a difference a year makes. This past July, Secretary of State Hillary Clinton and Russian Foreign Minister Sergey Lavrov signed a bilateral adoptions agreement that will strengthen procedural safeguards in adoptions between our countries.

Can we say that your participation, your calls for change and your support of our efforts on behalf of Russian children in need of a family made that agreement happen? Maybe not directly, or individually, but together we made a BIG difference. Your voice gave strength to our work and thanks to people like you, Russian adoptions are back on track.

This year also brought a celebration of the achievements of one very talented Russian adoptee, Tatyana McFadden. Tatyana, who faced multiple health challenges as a child and is a wheelchair user as a result of late-diagnosed spina bifida, was nominated for an ESPY Award this spring! We are all so proud of Tatyana. She truly represents the resiliancey and strength of the human spirit, even when faced with seemingly insurmountable odds.

And that’s what it’s all about for these orphaned children — beating the odds.

You’ve helped us before and now we need your help again. Please make a tax-deductible donation to Joint Council today. Your donation will allow us to continue working with the Russian Federation, the United States government, and adoption advocates everywhere, to ensure that Russian – U.S. adoptions continue well into the future.

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International Exhibition: Life In Motion – “I Want To Walk”

30 11 2011

Life in Motion, a unique photo exhibition created to raise awareness about orphaned children who are unable to live a fulfilled life due to their physical limitations will premier on December 8th at the Rita K. Hillman Education Gallery in New York city.  Life in Motion, is an international collaboration between the International Center of Photography, the “Artist Foundation” and Happy Families, Inc. (a Joint Council Member-Partner).

In our supporting role and continued partnership with HFIC, Joint Council is participating in the premier of the exhibition and is working with HFIC to bring this very special exhibition to Washington DC in 2012.

Led by renowned photographer Ed Kashi, the exhibition showcases the work of 10 students from the International Center of Photography (ICP) and the Rodchenko Moscow School of Photography and Multimedia who photographed children at orphanages and rehabilitation centers in Russia.

This project is part of a greater program, I Want to Walk, created by HFIC to help orphaned children obtain their dream of walking. For some children this meant physically being able to walk, while for others “walking” also meant being able to leave the orphanage and achieve their goals. All of us at Joint Council are proud to join other partners in supporting I Want To Walk and Life In Motion. Those supporting the exhibition include Flotek, Transaero (Official Transportation Partner of the Life in Motion” project), the Renaissance Moscow Hotel, the Restaurant Mari Vanna-Ginza Project, Social Mavens, the Venta Group, Arts+Business Partners, the Texas Scottish Rite Hospital for Children, and the Dorothea Haus Ross Foundation.

For more information on Life In Motion and I Want To Walk, please call 212.857.0001.





News/Updates

22 04 2011

After two weeks of no updates (thanks to our very successful Annual Conference!), we’ve finally been able to update the website with news and information! Check them out at jointcouncil.org or see below for new specific country updates:

Cambodia

Ethiopia (1)

Ethiopia (2)

News regarding adoption, featuring Adam Pertman

Vietnam

Russia (1)

Russia (2)

Ukraine

Latvia

Nepal





No to corruption. Yes to families.

14 03 2011

by Rebecca Harris, Director of Programs & Services

The following as an excerpt from our newsletter, Mbali’s Message.  Sign up to receive it by clicking here.

Already in 2011 we’ve seen Ethiopia move to reduce intercountry adoptions by 90% and Kazakhstan officially suspend adoptions in anticipation of their ratification of the Hague Convention.  Haiti and Ukraine are on what we’ve termed our “high alert” list – countries that show indications of closing in the next 12-months. This is a scene we’ve seen play out over and over again, in country after country.  And every time a country has chosen to suspend or close intercountry adoptions, children suffer.  It’s a scene that is quite frankly, confusing, unneccessary, and very disturbing.
In allowing this to occur, we’ve failed the biological families who need preservation services, we’ve failed the children who legitimately need intercountry adoption and we’ve failed our global community.  I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of failure.  I’m tired of seeing children, like Addison, become “collateral damage” in the battle against abuse.  Allowing children to die needlessly and alone is simply unacceptable.

Over the last ten years we’ve fought the good fight.  But we’ve lost too many times.  And every time we lose, children lose.  This month we’ll release a report about the systematic elimination of intercountry adoption and the decrease in services to children.  And we’ll ask you to join us in changing the tide.  We’ll ask you to rally your friends and family to stand up and say “No” to corruption and “Yes” to families.  It’s not enough to just stop bad things from happening – we have to make good things happen too!

So, be on the look out over the next month – in your inbox and our website – I hope you’ll join me in standing up and demanding the fulfillment of every child’s right to a safe, permanent and loving family.  Join me in speaking for those who cannot speak for themselves.





The Answer for Evangeline

12 11 2010

To learn more about Joint Council’s National Adoption Month Advocacy Campaign-Click Here

Her Mother

Last year in a Ukrainian court room, a stern judge asked me to rise.  “Mrs. Marchenko, can you be a good mother to this child?”

I was taught to say ‘Da’ (yes) in Russian.  Instead, I burst into tears. The judge’s face softened. “Sit down, woman. The answer is in your tears.” I slumped down and attempted to hush my sobs.  What a difficult, life-changing question.  This little stranger was suddenly supposed to be flesh of my flesh.  I was afraid of her; the two and a half year old not yet walking, with no words, and a profound desire to be left alone.Quick tongued Russian spun around the room.  Court business continued.  And then finally, a little girl abandoned at birth by her parents because of her diagnosis of Down syndrome officially became our daughter, Evangeline Sergeyevna Marchenko.
A year later, I sat in an observation room with Evangeline on my lap.  We just finished singing The Wheels on the Bus under the watchful eye of a social worker taking notes. Evangeline was evaluated to determine if, in addition to Down syndrome, she was autistic.  Her unusual behavior, like eating dirt and rocking back and forth most of the day, was either a symptom of autism or simply part of her being orphaned. At home earlier I had started a montage of pictures documenting her year with the plan to post it on-line. Friends and family will ooh and ahh and talk about how much Evangeline has changed. “Her hair is so long!” “She is so pretty!”  It’s true. She’s beautiful.  Her hair is like corn silk. Her face is shaped like a heart.

But if I were to document her first year honestly, the pictures would be different. There would be a picture of me crying on my husband Sergei’s shoulder. “I can’t do this. She’s not who I expected her to be.”  Another picture would be of Evangeline with a huge knot on her forehead from hitting her head on the crib.  There would be shots of me with scratches on my face from trying to hug her.  Probably another one of me with my back to her, my face bright red and sweating from anger over her rejection. But who wants to watch a montage like that?
At the evaluation she waved ‘hi.’  She banged two plastic rings together, flirted and laughed with me, this little girl who is closed off to the world.  If those skills would have emerged before, I would not have made the appointment to have her evaluated.  My heart split open.We had seen a change in Evangeline recently though.  She had a tonsillectomy two weeks ago. After recuperation she started seeking me out.  Sometimes when I picked her up, she’d smile. She would wrap her chunky arms around my neck and squeeze. I loved these changes but it scared me too. I was afraid of waking up the next day and seeing Evangeline hiding and rocking, back in her own world.

“Give me five adjectives that describe your relationship with Evangeline compared to when you first brought her home” the social worker said. I muddled around, struggled to get words out. Finally I give her the allotted adjectives with little comprehension of what I was even saying.  I couldn’t breathe. “Do you feel like her mother now?” The social worker asked, tapping her pinky on the clipboard, blinking, her face a dead pan. I wrapped my arms around Evangeline, still on my lap, and started to cry just like I did in the Ukrainian court room. “Yes. I am her mother. I feel it.” It struck me.  I cried. Not because Evangeline was being evaluated for a dual diagnosis. I cried not because at three and a half she was still non-verbal. I cried because I realized her gains.  She has come so far. I cried because I’m the one who has farther to go. As an adoptive mom, I cling to those times like they are email from God.  This was his plan for Evangeline to be my daughter. There’s a profound beauty in the bumpy up and down-ness of this path. Our relationship grows through the hard times. I am convinced this depth of joy would not be experienced otherwise. The center piece of our puzzle, the one that gives me a hint of how it will look when completed, has started moving to its place.

I’m her mother.

By: Gillian Marchenko

This was The Answer for Evengeline, be The Answer for other children in need by watching the video below, sharing it with five people and asking them to join the campaign by signing up to learn more about our work in Kyrgyzstan by clicking here.  Make sure you’ve signed up too!





The Answer for Juliana

11 11 2010

To learn more about Joint Council’s National Adoption Month Advocacy Campaign-Click Here

My daughter sleeps soundly tonight.

She will wake up tomorrow and I will wash her face, dress her in clean clothing, and give her a full meal.  Before I take her to daycare and begin my work, we will play for a while and maybe read a book or two.  We will talk about the birthday party we went to just a few days ago and she will remind me of the colors of all the balloons.  We will practice numbers, colors and maybe even sing a few of songs.

While driving to daycare, we will play “I Spy” in the car – and she will tell me what she sees out of the car window.  Once at daycare, she will be surrounded by wonderful women who will throw their arms around her upon our arrival.  She will play– and sometimes argue– with the other children in her group.

Later in the week, she will be at her grandparent’s house where she will be spoiled with love, toys and adventures.  She will hug her great grandmother.  She will blow bubbles outside.

At dinner, I will come up with some creative tactic to get her to eat a little bit more than she prefers.  Before bedtime, when I put her in the bathtub, she will fight with me slightly; because she would much rather watch Wonder Pets on television.  But, once she is all clean and shiny, she will say to me, “I smell good Mama!”

This weekend, she will see her cousins and she will not be able to contain her excitement when they play with her on the floor. We will go next door to the park, and she will smile with exuberant pride as she soars down the slide.

This, all because of a wonderful thing called “adoption”.

This, because Russia allowed me the privilege to adopt my daughter.

This, because the United States allowed me the right to immigrate my girl and be able to call her an American Citizen.

This, because every child has the fundamental right to a family.

My story is not unique for those who know about international adoption.  It was painstakingly long.  It was extraordinarily expensive.  It was emotional.  It was hard.  Sometimes, it was agonizing.  But all throughout the process, I was fueled by knowing what would be at the end of the long journey.  And when one day I received an email from my adoption agency, telling me that a “match” had been made, along with a photo of my sweet girl, everything was worth it.  What would end up being 5 trips in 13 months to Russia would finally pay off for me – but more importantly… for my daughter.

On September 1, 2008, I woke up in a small hotel room in Tver, Russia, and got ready to go to the Teremok Orphanage to pick up my girl.  The women who had been my daughter’s caretakers for her first 14 months of life had dressed her in the clothing I had given them the night before.  They walked us to the front door of the orphanage.  I had to turn my head away from my daughter’s caretakers.  They were crying and I could not bear to look at the pain in their eyes.  My girl had been well cared for.

I was grateful.

I was relieved.

And suddenly, I was a mother. But more important than that – far more important than that…  Juliana became a daughter.  She became a citizen of a country where her possibilities are boundless.  And magically, she became a member of a family that immediately welcomed her and effortlessly shower her with unconditional love that she will never go without.

She will always have a pillow on which to rest her head.  She will never be without food.  She will have healthcare.  She will go to school.  She will have choices.  She will be able to drive a car.  She will be able to vote.  One day, she will go to college and learn that she can be anything she wants and pursue whatever it is in which she is interested.  She will be an integral part of a society that will value her.

My daughter sleeps soundly tonight.

This was The Answer for Juliana, Be The Answer for another child by visiting the Both End Burning Website– watch the video, read the petition and sign it today!

 

P.S. we don’t choose the winner of the $50 gift card to Target for yesterday’s task until next week Wednesday so keep sending your “I am the Answer” pictures!  For more info (read the bottom of the post).





Be the Answer for Nikita

11 11 2010

To learn more about Joint Council’s National Adoption Month Advocacy Campaign-Click Here

The Russian Orphan Lighthouse Project brings adoptable older Russian orphans to both the United States and Moscow for fun-filled visits with families interested in adoption.  For more information, visit www.lhproject.com or www.RussianOrphanLighthouseProject.blogspot.com.

Angelic

Mid-March, toward the end of recruiting, four unusually young children were added to my end-of-month Moscow trip.  One of them, five-year-old Nikita, came without details beyond his orphanage director’s glowing verbal report.  With his age, sandy curls, and personality, the only reason he wasn’t in Russian foster care was his HIV-positive status.  His biological mother shared her disease, not her life, with him, and lost custody through her neglect of his medical needs.

I promoted Nikita, but insufficient time, scanty information, and his diagnosis conspired against him.  When I left for Russia, he was destined to travel without a host family; still, his presence provided me the opportunity to formulate an impression of him.

When the kids arrived, his small stature surprised me, though Russian orphans are generally small for their age.  Nikita was delightful, a standout in attitude, intelligence, attentiveness, cooperation, kindness, and industry.   Cuddly too, he loved sitting on the lap of a lady who had taken a shine to him, but when it was another child’s turn, he would work diligently at different activities.  Young enough to seem genuine, I never sensed his exemplary behavior was a show for the benefit of potential adoptive parents.

One day, as we presented the kids their gifts, cherubic Nikita beamed, thanking me unprompted with a joy-filled, “Spaciba!”   His stoop from the weight of the bagged treasures on his shoulder demanded a photo; instead, when I asked him, the little tyke with great effort straightened tall for me.   Photo formalities over, he dragged his bag behind him to his room for safekeeping.

He personified persistence; on our long walks, he marched along, never complaining.  With the common room a frenzy of activity, Nikita worked solo on a puzzle, rotating the pieces to attempt all possibilities.  Occasionally other kids flitted by to help, but never stayed.   He showed no resentment at their late coming, or early going.   Even when a girl capriciously destroyed the nearly-completed puzzle, Nikita neither groused nor retaliated.  He just started over.

During my days with him, I thought repeatedly that, were I to design the perfect child, Nikita would result.   Yet he remained a little boy, on the lookout for puddles and whispering in ears when he had something to say.   One lady decided to pursue his adoption, though circumstances months later precluded her from proceeding, an outcome over which she shed countless tears.

Much later, I viewed Nikita’s orphanage interview.  Unlike most interviewees his age, he was talkative, responding readily to questions.  Noting he was anxious to begin school, he counted several numbers between one and ten and identified the colors of his sweater’s stripes.  Queried about his hopes, he wanted a mama, a papa, and several different toy vehicles, in that order.  Naming his hometown, he added he’d waited for his mother at the orphanage there and she “never, ever” came for him.

So Nikita, an angel in orphan’s clothes, awaits someone else to come for him, someone whose education about his condition trumps unfounded fear and prejudice.   His HIV status made him an orphan. I’m praying it doesn’t leave him one.

Be The Answer for Nikita by visiting the Both End Burning Website– watch the video, read the petition and sign it today!

P.S. we don’t choose the winner of the $50 gift card to Target for yesterday’s task until next week Wednesday so keep sending your “I am the Answer” pictures!  For more info (read the bottom of the post).








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